- Ending on what terms?
- March 18th, 2010
I've had this friend for a very long time, talking nearly a decade. We were very close, but we were so different. I'm very anti drugs, alchohal, and teen sex, and as we got older I could tell that she was getting more and more into those things. From before I even met her, I had another friend, who was my first best friend, and I knew that the two of them would really hit it off and they really did. The three of us were always together, though the two of them were more similar than I was. Last fall, my first friend died from a tragic accident from falling off a local bluff. My other friend and I have suffered this great loss and it's been hard to live with.
I picked up drawing and art as a hobby. I was told that it was good therapy for me to help get me through this, and I ended up being relatively good at it.
My friend on the other hand, became worse and worse with drugs and has run into many problems in her life. She is very bright, but unfortunately has not gotten into college yet and time is running out. Around New Years I decided that her behavior was getting too much for me to handle. Not only was she talking crap about me, but she was simply trying to force me out of her life so that she could continue smoking without my pleading her to stop. I did my best to hold on as long as I could but she made it clear that our friendship was coming to an end, and I simply dropped her. I treated her like I would treat a stranger.
Yesterday, my senior class was asked to write some notes to people who we may have something to say to, and she wrote me a note that said "I miss our friendship"
Does this mean that she wants me to talk to her and help her out cus she's going through a rough time? or does this simply mean that she was getting closure and just wanted to let me know that she'll miss me when we both move on once we graduate?
What am I supposed to do? It's been almost three months since we've talked and I dont feel like going back to being friends with her will benefit me in anyway. I have long since moved on, and I have several very close friends who I know I will keep in contact with as we get older. This time last year, this girl was one of those people I saw myself being friends with for the rest of my life, but I feel at this point if we were to reconcile, I wouldn't stay in touch with her much longer than I would hope.
Does anyone have any advice? I'm sorry if I offended anyone who smokes and drinks. I'm not here to judge, but it's just my decision not to do those things.